What’s in My Hospital Bag 

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Well, now that I have actually had my baby and am incredibly behind on posting this…I figured it’s a good time to finally get this post written out and published!!

I literally started typing out this blog post the week I had my daughter. Not only that, I had finally finished packing my darn hospital bag! Can we say, procrastination? 😂 Hey, it’s how I work and at least I still was able to get the photos taken for this post.

With my first pregnancy, I packed A LOT of things that I didn’t need. I packed a lot less this time but even then…I didn’t use a lot of what we brought. I give birth rather quickly, so I don’t really have time to use everything. 😂 I will go over what I packed and what I didn’t need.

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Toxic Relationships: A Few Reasons To Get Rid of Them

toxic Toxic Relationships: A Few Reasons To Get Rid of Them

Let’s face it. Unless you are living in a world where every single person around you is the most positive person on the planet, you have toxic people in your life.

I, for one, have dealt with one too many toxic people in my life and it’s taken me a long time to either realize it or realize it and then get them out. It’s really a harsh reality that you have to face every now and then.

That friend that you grew up with and have talked to for the past two decades could be your “best friend” but if you really think about it, they turn out to be this burden as opposed to being a light in your life. OR maybe you have a “friend” you became friends with just because you have things in common. Hey, that’s how a lot of us develop friendships but if all you ever do is talk about those couple things and your friend pretty much bashes all the things you believe in or think about…you’re probably better off without them.

Recently, over the past year or so, I have gone through some changes. No, nothing huge. But changes that involve getting rid of the toxic people from my life. And I figured, it would be a great idea to share it with people! You may find yourself reading this and a name pops into your head. Yeah…that relationship probably isn’t good for you.

  1. They’re usually full of negativity.

It’s true. They drown themselves in their own pity parties and as you try to comfort them and leave them with something to look forward to, they shoot you down with their negativity. Basically saying, “Buzz off, you have no idea what I am going through, so don’t bother trying to make me feel better.” Well, alrighty then. No arguments here, you’re on your own. Just get rid of them. The negativity does nothing good for you and your life. You should be surrounded by people that are going to be a positive outlook. Don’t get me wrong, people have bad days and that’s totally fine. And you may even feel negativity sometimes. But when each conversation is filled with the constant complaints about people or their life…it gets old.

2. They don’t support you.

Usually, those toxic people in your life don’t care very much about what is going on in your life. If you accomplish something or have some great news for you, they usually follow up with something better so something so negative that it makes you feel bad for sharing the news. You probably know them as “one-uppers.” Bet another name just popped into your head, didn’t it? They don’t just “one-up” you, they just downright don’t support anything you do or say. Not every friendship or relationship has to share the exact same views and opinions on things but hey, you don’t need to straight up bash somebody because of their point of view. I have kept myself at peace with a lot of the things people say and do and unless it is harming myself, my family, or others…it’s not going to bother me. Believe what you want, do what you want, if it truly makes you happy then that works for me!

3. They’re never really there for you.

This is probably one of the hardest things to come to terms with. Are you normally there for your friends? The one who comes to the rescue when they are feeling down and out and try to do whatever you can to lift them up? No one is perfect and as adults, we tend to not spend as much time on our friends as we used to. So, it’s okay to not ALWAYS be there at their doorstep with pizza and a bottle of wine when your friend has had a bad day. But if you’re going to text someone and ask them how they are doing, you better be there when you get back a response with, “I am just having a hard time right now.” I don’t know, I have a hard time remembering to text people back or I read a text and totally forget that I even read it. It happens. But when someone needs help, I do my best to be there. I guess it’s hard for some people who don’t value things the same way you do. We have families to take care of and businesses to run, it’s life. I get it. But there’s always that ONE friend that just…sucks at being there, period. And always expects you to be there for them. Ugh!

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4. They’re not as forgiving.

There have been numerous times where I have messed up in a friendship or gotten upset about something that happened or was said. If you’re a female reading this, you totally get it. Sometimes we are just a little sensitive…sometimes we’re a little mean. We can’t always control how we are feeling but we can choose how to carry on from the situation. Long story short, I had a friend who I told great news to and didn’t do #2. They didn’t support me. Mainly, they got jealous that I was going through something they weren’t…yet. Then they got mad. This whole time, I had no idea about it. Then something bad happened and they didn’t do #3. So, when that something bad happened, I was stuck without a friend to talk to because she was one of the only people to know about what was going on. Come to find out, she was jealous, didn’t want to talk to me, randomly talked to me again, found out about the bad news, felt extremely guilty, didn’t talk to me for longer, and then finally told me the truth. They apologized for not being there. And guess what? I forgave her. In an instant. Because, I understand that things happen and I wouldn’t want me friend to feel the way she was feeling. Fast forward to a few weeks later…you’re having a really rough time and that same friend tells you they are there for you if you need anything. Later on in the conversation, starts acting rude and you tell them….you’re sounding rude. Your comments are rude. I just don’t understand why you’re being rude. And then the comments from your friend turn out mean and just disrespectful (which will be #5) and well, you being the person going through the tough time, you get upset. You let your friend know you’re upset. And, you’re not going to let them walk all over you – like always (#6) and you tell them! But get this, later on you message them and apologize for your own actions. And your friend has the audacity to act like they did absolutely nothing wrong and was still being extremely rude to you.

Take the two scenarios here…your friend couldn’t forgive an ARGUMENT but you forgave them for being a plain, HORRIBLE FRIEND. End the friendship there.

5. They don’t respect you.

It kind of goes along the same lines of them not supporting you. They don’t really care what you think and don’t care all too much about what you have to say when they’re whining about their life. Clearly, if they’re not there for you when you do the same thing, that’s just not fair. And if they belittle you for the things that you do or say, that’s not respect at all. You two may have the same interests in life, but you are NOT the same person. But respect should always be there. It doesn’t matter if your friend makes more money than you or goes on vacations and buys a ton of fancy clothes…she shouldn’t rub that in your face or make you feel bad because you just don’t. Or you spend your money on other things that you see as more important to you. Not only that, if they are giving you condescending remarks about the things that you do or say, please know that they don’t have any respect for you. They may say, “I was only joking,” but there’s a good chance they were just being rude anyway.

6. They walk all over you.

Now this….I have been guilty of in the past. I had a friend that used to be the nicest person in the world and let people walk all over her ALL THE TIME. So, it wasn’t just me, but I took advantage of the fact that she never said “no.” Granted, I wasn’t the worst but if it came down to asking her for help, I knew she would be the one to do. Fast forward to a few years later and the mean friend she hung out with all the time (me) finally taught her not to let people do that and she doesn’t anymore. If she ever reads this, I am proud of you girl! haha. Anyway, I realized how much of a bad friend I was being, I stopped acting like that and I grew up! I mean, I was in high school so we all have some growing up to do in those years.

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With all that being said, someone is walking all over you and mistaking your kindness for weakness, drop them like a bad habit. I sure deserved it back in the day but I am thankful that my friend kept me around and we have been friends for over 10 years now. 🙂

Well, I think that’s about all I can think of at the moment. Spending time just going over these six reasons has helped me realize who I needed in my life and who I didn’t. Now, it’s your turn. Maybe a few names came up while you were reading….maybe you’re one of the lucky ones and you couldn’t think of anyone. That’s great! But for those of us with toxic people in our lives…don’t let them weigh you down. Assess the relationship and see if it’s going to make your life better or make it more stressful. I definitely like the less stress option. Good riddance!

 

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Liebster Award Nomination

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Woo hoo! I got nominated for something!

I was nominated for this world by the amazing and lovely Lynne over at Bobs & Rouge. Even though I was totally lost at first, I was super excited! I guess this is a good way to get to know other bloggerse and get their names out there. So, I would LOVE to nominate a few others!! 🙂

Lynne also nominated PrettyLoved but I am going to nominate her as well cause I think she’s awesome. lol.

I have nominated these blogs because I really enjoy reading them and they are not only people who write well and take good photos, they are super friendly and have spent the time chatting with me which is amazing!
1. http://www.prettyloved.com
2. http://www.colorubold.blogspot.com
3. http://www.aredlipandanudeshoe.com
4. http://www.thebatsandrabbits.blogspot.com
5. http://www.lolalanelove.com

Lynne asked me 11 questions as well. So, I will gladly answer them the best I can!

1. What is the one gift you would really like?
Hmmmm. I don’t even know! The only thing that really came to mind is a nice vanity. But, I’m really looking forward to my husband making one for me. 🙂 That way I will have my own space to do my hair and makeup! Other than that, I love books and workout gear. So, if anyone has any great book suggestions, please don’t hesitate to let me know! I mean, my birthday IS coming up soon! 😉
2. What do you look for in a blog?
Honestly, I look for a lot of the person. Their personality, their life, what makes them tick. Sure, great photos make your blog look great, your beauty reviews are awesome (I’ve learned a lot this way), DIY is great, but I am all about people’s lives! I write because I want people to be able to take my mistakes, accomplishments, or other experiences and learn from them! So, I guess I look to do the same thing when I go to other blogs.
3. What is your favourite place and why?
Oh boy. This is a very hard question to answer! I mean, my favorite place to eat? Favorite place to visit? There are so many “favorite places” depending on how you ask the question. But the first thing that popped into my head was this morning. I was laying in bed, my alarm went off to remind me it was time to get back to work, my puppy trying to squeeze in the middle of my husband and I, and I rolled over to sweetly hug my snoring husband. That’s probably my favorite place. Laying in bed with my husband, puppy, and my little baby growing in my belly. What’s better? When I fall asleep in his arms. Sounds a little mushy but hey, Lynne asked. That’s my answer. 🙂
4. What is your biggest dream?
I have a lot of dreams. lol. But right now, the biggest dream I would say that I have is to be a great inspiration and motivator in all aspects of my life. I know that there are many people that have motivated me and inspired me throughout my life and I would love to be one of those people for others as well.
5. What is the one thing that you hate most?
When people try to make you look bad for no reason. I think this is on my heart and mind right now simply because this morning someone decided to attack me via Facebook about a comment I wrote on my sister’s wall. I write exactly how I speak. And since my sister has know me for her 22 years of life, I am pretty sure she knows how I speak as well. Anyway, someone decided to tell me that what I said was messed up and continued to fight with me when I rephrased my sentence (although I didn’t feel I was in the wrong) and then brought my marriage into the situation. No. You do NOT talk about my marriage. 1. You don’t know me. 2. I don’t know you. 3. You don’t know my life. And 4. My life is none of your business. I guess you could say that’s also what I hate…people butting into your life when they have no right to, and when they attack my family. Ugh. Can you tell I am still a little heated? lol. I will always stand up for what I believe is right and I will not let anyone get bullied…for anything.
6. What is your favourite make-up brand?
Let’s see. Since about 2009, I have always been a MAC Cosmetics kind of gal. But since I started talking to my friend Raquel about makeup and seeing other bloggers and their makeup tips…I have ventured out a bit. Shopping at Ulta and Sephora has broadened my knowledge in makeup. I would have to say that besides MAC, I love Urban Decay. Especially when it comes to eye makeup.
7. What can you not live without?
Besides the usual oxygen, water, and food? ;P Other than that, I really could LIVE without everything else. But life wouldn’t be so enjoyable if I didn’t have my family. So, I guess you could say that I cannot live without my family. Whether they are thousands of miles away or sleeping next to me every night…I need my family in my life.
8. What are you addicted to?
Apparently social media. lol. My husband tells me that all the time….while he’s on the phone playing Clash of Clans, Boom Beach, Sim City, and Jungle Heat. How ironic. 😛
9. What is your most important blogging goal for 2015?
To get better at it. Maybe to post a little more about things other people might be interested in. I know my life isn’t always so exciting. Maybe I could do a little more beauty stuff or fitness and health related posts. Also, I want to get better at taking photos. In general, I would like to get my voice out there.
10. What would you like to achieve in 2015?
Well, I wrote ALLLLLLL about that in my post from a few days ago!! I have many goals for 2015, like concquering my first year of being a Mommy! haha. Check it out, here.
11. What do you hope to see more of in the bloggersphere?
I’ve met so many awesome people through blogging. People who actually care about you, your posts, how you feel, etc. I hope that continues and gets even stronger!!

Here are the rules for the Liebster Award:
1. Thank the blog that nominated you and link them.
2. Post eleven facts about yourself.
3. Answer the eleven questions provided by the person who nominated you and then create an eleven question set for the next group of nominees.
4. Choose eleven people to nominate and link them on the post.
5. Let your nominees know they’ve been tagged – and no tag backs!

Now ladies, here are your questions!!

1. What are your goals entering into 2015?
2. What inspires you to write/blog?
3. What do you look for in a blog?
4. What’s your addiction?
5. You’re stranded on an island, you can bring only 5 things, what are they?
6. What’s in your purse?
7. What music really makes you move, right now?
8. Where are you from?
9. What made decide to start a blog?
10. What is your favorite app to use?
11. iPhone or Android? This is a very serious question. 😛

Now, it’s your turn nominees!! 🙂

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2014 Has Taught Me…

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I know, I have already done a 2014 post/recap. And I will be doing a 2015 goals post as well. But I think it’s not only important to look back on the things you enjoyed about the past year, but also to learn from the past year. Although it may be boring to some, here is my list of what 2014 has taught me.

1. It’s okay to turn 25 years old. Your life isn’t over…yet.
2. You want to chop over a foot off of your hair? Go for it. You want to cry about it in 6 months when you’re tired of it being short but it is growing out and at that ugly stage? Go for it. It’s hair. Yes, it will grow back. But it’s totally understandable to have a minor freak out every now and then.
3. When you’re dating someone and it’s serious, you will know if it is heading somewhere. Don’t get too antsy. He will know what he’s doing.
4. It’s perfectly okay to let go of the friends you thought were going to be there for you.
5. Sometimes you work your rear-end off, harder than anyone around you and you won’t get the credit…You’ll live.
6. You don’t always get what you want…but sometimes you get exactly what you NEED.
7. Those other friends you had back home, the ones that said they would ALWAYS be there for you, no matter what? Yeah, they weren’t there. It’s okay to cut them out of your life. They probably won’t notice anyway.
8. Sometimes the least likely friendship ends up being a really good friendship. And the exact friendship you needed.
9. Sometimes, it’s just not your time to get what you deserve. Your time is coming. Be patient.
10. It is MORE than okay to stand up for yourself. As long as you are respectful and can back yourself up. Don’t let anyone treat you like a doormat…ever.

These are just 10 things that I decided to share with everyone. Maybe my mistakes and experiences in 2014 will help someone out in 2015. They will be helping me, that’s for sure.

I hope everyone has a safe and HAPPY New Year. Don’t let anything negative from this past year or any of the letdowns of this past year…get you down. You have so much more to look forward to in 2015. And I can’t wait to read all about it in everyone’s blogs. 🙂

Until next time,
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What I Would Tell My 18 Year Old Self

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Let’s face it. Now that Timehop has entered into the app world, we can see all of the things we have posted in the past few years. In my case, it’s about 9 years (for about as long as I have been on Facebook).

But the funny thing is, without that crazy app drudging up your past, we probably wouldn’t even remember half of the things we did when we were teenagers! From the time I was 18 years old until the time I entered my 20s, it’s pretty much a blur. Probably from the endless nights of partying and the days where sunlight rarely existed unless I was going to work at McDonald’s.

Looking back on those “lost years” I would say that I made plenty of mistakes that a lot of young adults make. You just graduated high school and you’re spending your first few years of college just trying to figure out who you are. In my case, I didn’t go to college. I ended up at a Beauty School when I was 19. Before that, I moved away to California when I was 18…with just 2 suitcases and a couple hundred bucks to my name. It’s no wonder I ended up back at my parents house.

I definitely had a lot of growing up to do in that time. This period of my life is a part of me and here I am today, happier than I have ever been. But there are some things I would like to tell my 18 year old self to maybe soften the blow when things got a little harder. I have included some random photos of me from when I was 18 or 19 as well!! Enjoy the embarrassment! 😛

1. Slow down
Slow down on the shots, the beers, the bombs, and whatever else you may want to consume in an evening out in the city. First off, you are not 21 years old and just because you are cute enough for the bouncer to let you into the bars underage, doesn’t mean you should be going insane in there. Those drinks are NOT water, you will not get rehydrated, and you will feel its effects tomorrow. But most importantly, I say slow down because you have plenty of time to grow up. 21 is only a few years away and let’s face it, it’s really not all that it’s cracked up to be! Enjoy those teenage years. You can still say, “Hey, I’m a teenager. What do I know?” Once you’ve gotten past that, you will have a lot more responsibility and well, you will be accountable for a lot more.
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2. Check your clothing
Girl, what are you wearing? I’m sorry, but not everyone can pull off that super cute outfit that is popular in the mags these days. You want to be hip and what not, but it’s just not working for ya. You have no boobs and you really don’t have a butt either, but you’re skinny (and being skinny won’t last you very long at the rate you’re going). So, let’s face it. That super low cut shirt would be cute if you had a rack to go along with it. Instead, you paired it with that god-awful spaghetti strap tanktop underneath that you bought at a 5 for $20 sale at Wet Seal…and you had every color. It’s just not cute. Alright, so you tried to be a little scandalous. There is a difference between showing what you got and just being trashy. You don’t have boobs or an ass but you’ve got some legs. Show them off! That jean skirt you bought from American Eagle, the one with all the frays and tears in it? Yeah, it’s too short. I am pretty sure I almost saw your panties. What’s worse? You live in Wisconsin and you decided to pair THAT with a pair of Uggs. Gross. It’s so cold that you want to keep your feet warm but your legs are perfectly fine? You are such a weirdo. Speaking of cold…wear a freaking jacket. It’s snowing outside and you probably should have just chosen to go stay in for the night but because it’s Thursday night $1 bombs night, you HAVE to go meet up with the rest of the crew. Okay, I get it. Cheap drinks and friends…why not? But you don’t need to be the idiot, standing outside of the bar, smoking your cigarette and shaking like a damn vibrator because you were “too cute” for a jacket. Also, why don’t you just quit smoking while you’re at it. Besides the health issues that come along with it…it smells bad and you look gross. Sorry, but it’s true.
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3. Use your brain
Honestly, this could be said for a lot of people in the adult world too. Sorry to get your hopes up, but there are dummies everywhere. You just have to deal with it. Remember how I mentioned earlier about the jacket in the cold? Yeah, your brain could be pretty useful when you’re freezing half to death. Or all of those shots you decided to take, one after another? Your brain probably told you to stop at one point, but you didn’t use that advice, did you? Use that brain, girl! So, you want to go out and drink with your buddies but you have to be up at 5am to get ready for work and drive about 45 minutes to get there. I’m sure staying out until bar close and getting into bed at 3am is a fantastic idea. I hope you sense my sarcasm. Mainly, just use some common sense.
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4. You will not find your soulmate in a bar
Hey, some people really do find their soulmates in a bar! Actually, my husband and I OFFICIALLY met in a bar. We had been working together for months but never spoke to each other until we were on a detachment and everyone from work went out for drinks. We started chatting and we hit it off! This is rare. Don’t go to a bar thinking you’re going to find a super hot guy, absolutely click, and just spend the rest of your lives together. Most guys (and nowadays many girls) go to bars for hookups. The relationship aspect is over for many young singletons. Why else do you spend an hour getting ready for the night when you know by 2 am, you’re going to smell of alcohol, have smudged eyeliner, and your hair probably went into a messy bun on the top of your head? Most of the times, the guy is just going to want to take you home for the night…
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5. DON’T GO HOME WITH THE GUY
Really. Just don’t. It has bad idea written all over it. Who REALLY wants to invite you over ar 2am for a drink and a chat? If he really wants to chat with you, think about this, and just see if he calls you tomorrow. And if he calls (or texts) you tomorrow…at a decent time…like when the sun is still shining, then give him the time of day. Otherwise, just pass and go home into your comfy bed. It will be much better to sleep there anyway!
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6. Work hard, no matter where you’re working
So you work at McDonald’s. No, it’s not glamorous. No, it doesn’t give you a lot of money. No, it isn’t always fair when it comes to working hours. But it’s a job. It may be a greasy, under appreciated, and smelly job, but you get a paycheck. Remember that. Not many people nowadays can even get a job at McDonald’s. Always stay positive and work hard. You never know what will happen and who is watching. Plus, your hardwork may not even pay off there, but it will in the future. Having a good work ethic will help you in your adult life.
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7. Don’t eat that crap
Ever hear of the “freshman fifteen?” Freshmen in in college tend to gain weight during their first year. It may be a lot more than 15 pounds as well. Why is this? Well, they are away from home for the first time and eating out at the closest McDonald’s was easier for them. Imagine that, you work there. And you get free meals. Stop it. Don’t eat there. ESPECIALLY after a night of drinking! That is the WORST thing for your body! Your metabolism has completely slowed down and when you go for that drive-thru before you head home, you’re just putting more junk into your body that will sit there until you decide to burn it off. And well, let’s face it. You never worked out much either, so the fat is just getting stored. Maybe you can keep warmer in the winter with that short skirt and no jacket…
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8. Exercise
You were an all-year athelete growing up. So, what stopped you? You graduated high school and thought it was too cool to workout? Oh, I get it. You had other important things to do…wrong! You definitely should exercise and get that blood pumping! Burn those calories and well, maybe you wouldn’t be so skinny if you had some muscle on them bones! Actually, if you worked out more, by the time you acutally hit 21, after all of that drinking and eating fast food, you might not have gained that 45 pounds that will end up taking you almost 2 years to lose. Trust me, putting on the weight is a lot easier than taking it off. You’re not going to enjoy looking in the mirror and one day realizing, ‘What have I done to myself?’ So, get out there and be active. You might even find that you really love working out instead of having that all-nighter…weekender…what have you. And it will be a lot better for you.

9. Take advantage of the opportunities given to you
Alright, so you didn’t go to college like the rest of your class did. That’s okay. Maybe you are still figuring yourself out, maybe you don’t know what you want to go to school for, or maybe you went a different route. Like, Beauty School. Your parents probably saved some money up for you to go to school, right? Well, lucky for you, you’re going to school without the burden of debt/school loans upon you. That is phenomenal. Not many people have that luck. So…why are you throwing it away by partying all night or sleeping in because you didn’t want to get up for class? Sorry to tell you, but this is the easy part of life. School is NOT hard. Especially when it is something you love to do! No party is worth it. No guy is worth it. And sorry…no friends are worth it either. And if you have friends trying to get you to skip out on class, they’re really not worth your time in the first place! Your education is very important and you need to realize that. Don’t waste the money or time by not going. You’ll end up paying for it later…like having to start school over.

10. Love who you are
Do you even enjoy going out and being crazy? Is it fun for you anymore? Your friends are doing it, I get it. But it’s okay to be alone and to spend time with yourself. More than okay, actually! You don’t need to compete with those other girls that get all the guys at the club. You don’t need to act any other way that isn’t yourself. If you like to knit or crochet on cold winter nights, then do it! You like to read books and go to coffee shops to hang out and listen to music with friends…even better. No one said that the only time to hang out with friends was going out to the bars. Love who you are. Whatever you’re doing that is good for you, whatever you’re doing that is positive in your life, do that! Don’t do anything that destroys you.

This may be a very long list of things that I would tell myself when I was 18, but I could go on forever. I made a LOT of mistakes when I was younger. And hell, I could probably make one of these lists for every year of my life up until now. You live your life and you learn from it. I regret nothing of my past…I am where I am today because of the experiences that I have had. And I met the love of my life because I ended up where I was. But I can tell you one thing…I was going to get here eventually. This is where I was meant to be. So, I could have avoided a lot of tears, heartache, and fat (lol) had I followed through with these easy steps.

One day, my daughter (if I have one) will hear many of my crazy stories and will probably have to learn from her own mistakes too. But hopefully, because of what I have gone through, I can help her through it.

Here’s to be 18 once upon a time. And here’s to not being 18 ever again.

Cheers!
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6 Observations of Being a Newlywed

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So, for those of you who are new to the blog, I am a newlywed. You can read about that here and here. This post isn’t a complaint but more of an overall observation. And observation of what happens when you go from the dating world into the married world…nothing really changed. Just the title and a few rings. It’s crazy! My husband and I have been living together for a little over a year now and just got married at the end of September. So, living with him and figuring things out about him is not new. But for some reason, I am finding little things different now that we are married and have moved into a house. Maybe it has to do with my being pregnant, I sit back more and watch things, and we have a puppy? I don’t know. But here’s some things I have noticed!

1. You share EVERYTHING.
I always shared things with my husband. When he was my boyfriend, I shared things with him. We didn’t really have anything to hide from each other so we shared things. Like, the bed, obviously. We take showers together, we share stories, we share clothes…well, mostly he shares clothes with me like big, comfy T-shirts! Hell, I have even worn his boxers before because I needed an extra pair of undies. TMI? Never. But what have I noticed we started sharing now that I didn’t know we did before? Nail clippers. He has his own set of nail clippers and I have about…4. I know where his are and I know where mine are. The other night, I was laying in bed and he was just getting home from work and I heard him go into the bathroom, go under the sink, and unzip my nail polish bag. What for? The nail clippers. Then I hear, “clip, clip, clip.” There really isn’t anything wrong with this but I found it funny that he went for mine. Probably because I am more organized and keep things where I like them and are easy to find. Go figure he goes for mine. Haha. Other little things like, hair combs, razors, tweezers, facial cleansers, shaving cream, cars, and other things I can’t think of right now. It’s just funny how much closer you get to each other.

2. Hogging the bed.
Remember in number 1 where I just said you share the bed? Yes. We have shared the same bed for the past year. When we first started dating, actually I think we were still testing the waters, he ended up buying a new bed. He broke up with his girlfriend and they were living together and he was like…”I need a new bed. Want to go bed shopping with me?” Like the weirdos we are, I went. It was fine. I got to test out beds and it was actually kind of fun. He ended up getting a Queen size posturepedic mattress along with 2 tempurpedic pillows. He must not have been thinking that this relationship was going to go anywhere. A queen size? 😉 Just kidding. Anyway, when we were dating it was all about the cuddling. I don’t know, we have this thing where you’re not allowed to sleep apart. Not saying we always have to be on top of each other or anything but…a hand, leg, your butts (lol), something has to be touching the other person. So, it was fine and dandy for us because well, we would end up cuddling all night anyway. But now….NOW he does this thing where he sleeps diagonally! What is that?! He already takes up most of the bed and then goes for the diagonal sleeping position. Then puts his leg on me. Babe, I am pregnant and I am always hot. You cover the fan with your body so I don’t want your leg on me. Where did this come from?! Maybe it’s my growing belly, the fact that I have a body pillow on my side with another pillow stacked on top for my hips, or that our puppy is in bed with us and she sleeps at the foot of the bed. I don’t know. But he is now an official bed hog. He’s married now, why does he need to share? 😛

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