A Letter To My Daughter – A Rainbow Baby 

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When you were 4 weeks old, I took a photo similar to this one in appreciation of my post partum tummy. The tummy that housed you and grew you into the tiny human that lays upon me today. 

But as I had shared in a previous post this last week, this month hasn’t always been so good to me. I’ve experienced loss. And this tummy had the privilege to be home to a little one, even if only for a few weeks. This was a year ago. Although I experience great joy that I have you here with me, I do not forget the little one that came before. The little angel that looks over you now, that is a piece of you and of me. My temple is not damaged, no good, not worthy, or less womanly. It’s a shame that women have felt that it’s too “taboo” to speak about miscarriage, as I have before, but it’s not something to be ashamed of. And it doesn’t make you less of a woman or a mother. My little girl, someday you will become a woman and a mother. I pray you never experience the sadness that I have, but if you do, know that you are strong and you will survive. 💕

The Truth About 28

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I posted a photo the other day on my Instagram, about how it felt to be TWENTY EIGHT. I mean, not much has really changed overnight from 27 to 28. I’m still me but at the same time, I’m different. 

✨the truth about 28 – as I see it✨ ••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••• I'm still in my twenties. I'm still young. Long ago, I used to think 28 (or anything above 25) was old. 12 years ago, I experienced horrible heartache. And last year I experienced loss. This day doesn't always bring amazing memories but it's not always a sad day either. It's a day I get to celebrate each year, the woman I have become. The woman I am going to be. And the woman I once was. Every year, I sit and reflect on these days and today I sit here, so peaceful. Loving every moment of my life that I've been blessed with. I am a wife, a mother to two beautiful babies, I am healthy, I am strong, I am loved, and I am happy. Happy is not a word I used to describe myself in the years past but I can confidently say it now. 28 isn't a year of change or discovery for me. It's a year of passion. There ARE a lot of changes happening in my life this year, but I get to express and explore my passions. And I'm so excited. Bring it on, 28. ____ 👆🏽 Read more in the blog on Friday. Link will be in the bio. 💕 . . . . . #birthday#happybirthday#28thbirthday#lovemylife#embracewomanhood#embracemotherhood#thehappynow#motherhood#motherhoodthroughinstagram#momsofinstagram#momsofinsta#momsoftwo#strongmama#blog#blogger#momblog#momblogger#ageisjustanumber#lifestyleblogger#lblogger#lifesgood#womanhood#empoweredmama#empoweredwoman#empoweringwomen#selflove#fitmom#fitmama#fitmomsinspire#momswholift

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I’m currently stuck in this stage of not quite mid twenties but not yet thirty. What does that even entail these days? As I wrote in my Instagram post, a few years ago, I thought 30 was such a dirty word! It meant I was old! But the thing is, I still have so much life left ahead of me. And the best part about it is: I spent almost 28 years of my life trying to figure out who the heck I was, trying to find the confidence to be ME, and now I get to spend the rest of my life being me! Unapologetically! 

My birthday isn’t something I ever look forward to. It’s another year I’ve been on this earth and another year I’ve gotten to enjoy the blessings in my life. But it wasn’t always like that. It seems that around my birthday, I’ve always dealt with some sort of pain or tragedy – a bad memory in my life. 

  1. Death of a family member
  2. Loss of a pregnancy
  3. Losing another pregnancy
  4. Breakups

One of those things really isn’t that big of a deal now, but it took a long time for me to get past a few of the others. And although I won’t get into the details on this post, I will say that I’ve come out stronger than I was before. 

And 28 as I see it…is a year of a fabulous me. The mommy of two beautiful children, the wife of a handsome and intelligent man, the active duty service member becoming a stay at home mom. It’s a year of experience, a year of learning, and a year of adventure. Adventures in motherhood, stay at home mom life, not earning my own income anymore, and adventures with my family! 

So, no. I am not in my mid twenties or in my thirties. I am not old. I am not young and naive…

But I am everything and everywhere I am supposed to be. That’s the truth about 28, as I see it.

Plan With Me – Let’s Party!

img_0946 Plan With Me - Let's Party!Okay, I am not really partying this week, but it IS a week of birthdays, including my own!

I am not usually one to celebrate my birthday. I don’t usually like to and I don’t like having expectations. So, somewhere around my 16th or 17th birthday, I stopped caring so much. But somehow, people have made each and every birthday enjoyable and memorable for me. A lot happened when I was younger around my birthday (and even last year) that I kind of just, space out on it.

In the planner world though, I freaking LOVED this spread and it worked well for the birthday week!! So, I took a few photos while I was planning and then the finished product! I will link as many of the tools I used as I can at the end of the post. I realized I should give credit where credit is due! Read more

January 8-14: Friends That Visit and the Makeup I Got to Wear

img_0576-1 January 8-14: Friends That Visit and the Makeup I Got to WearIt’s pretty crazy that last week, I put on makeup AND did my hair. Not only once…but twice. 😂

It’s kind of a big deal for myself and other moms that I know. I know there are a few (okay a lot) of those uber glamorous Instagram mom’s that have it all together, but I’m not one of them. And oh my gosh, I love looking at those moms Instagram accounts! Girl. You’re rocking it! It also helps that they’re probably really good at makeup whereas I’m lucky if I can get my contour down correctly. Contour, highlight, blush…ahhhh!!!

Either way, it’s always fun to play with makeup and I did the look shown above, before I went to pick up my friend of 11 years up at the airport! I’ve been living far from home for the past 4.5 years now and it was really nice to have a friend come and visit me.

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Plan With Me – January 9-14

I am a little behind in posting this week’s plan with me but I have some fun Hingis happening this week!! Well, no activities or anything but a friend of mine from back home, came to visit me for a few days!! 

It’s exciting because I’ve been in the Navy for almost 5 years now and this is the first time anyone has come to visit me. Since having the babies, I have been going home less frequently so it was about time someone came to visit ME! 😆 

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Along with friends visiting, that means you have to work a bit harder on getting in those workouts you had planned on. I wrote them down and I have to do them, right?! Well, I had two workouts scheduled for over the weekend and I didn’t get to them. I had a busy weekend with my friend and I just wanted to be more “lax” about it. But as you can see, I had to shift my days so this is where my stickers came in! 😂 Easy way to cover up your messes. Haha! 

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Ain’t that the truth
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My friend leaves on Thursday and that sucks. 😭 But I’m looking forward to seeing her and my family again in a few months! 🙌🏽

A Year of Me January 1-7

Alright, I said I was going to take a selfie everyday for this year. I had a list of what I was going to do and well, I failed. 3rd day of the year and I didn’t follow through…

But actually I did. I took selfies everyday but I just didn’t post them. Oops!! Here’s my selfies!! 

I actually take a selfie every time I workout too. So, if I didn’t get the selfie in the same spot as I said I would, at least I got one. 😜 

I spent all of last week really trying my best to workout as many days as possible. I start a new program on Monday and it’s really new. It’s important for me to feel ready and prepared, so I started some of the workouts early on. I’ll be posting updates about the workouts on here and on my Instagram as well. 

And over the weekend, I also discovered some new skincare products that I am trying out. This “selfie a day” project will really help me see the difference! I’ll write more about it in the next weeks round of photos. 😆

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A Year of Me – The Purge

Today was a wonderful Monday. Monday’s feel like “fresh start” kind of days. Although yesterday was the first day of the year, I still feel as though today is the beginning. 

My husband was off of work today and for the past two weeks of the vacation period (he wasn’t on vacation but things are slow this time of year), we have been purging so many things in the house. We’ve lived here for literally, 2 years. We moved from a one bedroom apartment to a 3 bedroom 2.5 bath house and have managed to clutter it! 

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And I hate clutter. But somehow, I have a tendency to accumulate things and the same goes for my husband. So, we’ve been going through our things in the garage and bedrooms and storage closets where things are tucked away. And we have purged! Not everything yet, but we have gotten quite a bit out of here. 

And today…we were able to send a few boxes to goodwill. It wonderful. There’s still a bit more to do but it feels great to not feel like the walls are closing in on me. Maybe I’ll post some photos of our living room sometime because being able to get rid of the junk and have a minimal living room as made being home more enjoyable. 

And to continue on with the daily selfies (post workout selfie included)…hi! 😆

📸: iPhone 6s

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Plan With Me – 2017

So, I have been “planning” for majority of my life. But this past year I discovered The Happy Planner and I dove into a whole other world of planning.

This whole decorative planning got me super excited and it’s one of the crafty things that I do that I enjoy. I get to combine memory planning as well and that’s a lot like scrapbooking! Stickers, scrapbook paper, washi tape, the works! It’s fun and kind of relaxing.

I am not the best at this whole decorative planning thing, but I thought it would be fun. 🙂

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2017 – A Year of Me

Happy New Year!!

You know the saying, “New year, new me.” Don’t worry, this isn’t me using that same saying!! This is actually….new year…let’s see what happens with me.


Well, it may sound silly, but in 2016, I learned A LOT about myself. I embraced who I was as a woman and a mother and I feel like I pretty much rocked it. Yes, I am tooting my own horn a little bit. But anyone that really knows me and has known me for a long time….knows that it’s about time I got here.

There is always room for more growth though, right? Well, it may sound silly but i Have decided to do a little project with myself in the new year. It’s going to be super simple yet challenging at the same time.

I plan to take a picture (or 2) of myself every single day for the next year. Believe it or not, with all of the selfies I take, I actually don’t take one everyday! We usually take selfies when we feel like we are looking good or when we are going out on a special date or something, right? Well, I am doing it no matter what.

I will take my selfie:

  1. FOR THE MOST PART in the same spot daily (it may change)
  2. no matter what I am wearing
  3. with makeup or not
  4. whether or not I have showered yet
  5. from the shoulders/waist up (sometimes I’ll do a body one)
  6. and I will not edit them

This is a weird project for me but I think it will be fun. In a way, it’s for me to be able to fall in love with myself everyday. I will see myself and there are days where I may not feel the best and there will be days where I feel absolutely fantastic. Even though 2016 brought a lot of growth, like I said, there is always room for improvement. So, as I look at these photos daily, I may pick out my flaws but I can also continue to learn to love the beauty that is there.

It will be difficult to keep up with daily. There’s a HUGE chance that I will not be posting EVERY single day, but I will have a post with the dates that correspond with each photo. Either way, I will get this done.

I will be using either my “fancy”camera or my iPhone. I am kind of excited. It’s going to be interesting to see what happens in a year of selfies. 🙂

And to kick off, here I am. dsc_0632 2017 - A Year of Me

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What’s in My Hospital Bag 

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Well, now that I have actually had my baby and am incredibly behind on posting this…I figured it’s a good time to finally get this post written out and published!!

I literally started typing out this blog post the week I had my daughter. Not only that, I had finally finished packing my darn hospital bag! Can we say, procrastination? 😂 Hey, it’s how I work and at least I still was able to get the photos taken for this post.

With my first pregnancy, I packed A LOT of things that I didn’t need. I packed a lot less this time but even then…I didn’t use a lot of what we brought. I give birth rather quickly, so I don’t really have time to use everything. 😂 I will go over what I packed and what I didn’t need.

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